by abdulsaboor » Fri Sep 28, 2007 11:00 pm
How to Last Longer in Bed is one of the most anxiety of almost all men and it's apparently caused by premature ejaculation defined as ejaculating before either partner achieves satisfaction. Premature ejaculation (PE) means coming too quickly. It occurs when you ejaculate too quickly and without control. It occurs before or shortly after penetration. If you normally ejaculate within a few minutes of penetration (say, after only one to five minutes).
Its one of the commonest of all sexual problems that prevents to last longer in bed. Premature ejaculation is a problem which plagues up to 36 million men if it is defined as ejaculation within five minutes. However, most men merely find PE a considerable irritation - a condition that makes them come very soon after they enter their partners (say, after only one to two minutes), so that neither party gets a lot of satisfaction.
Premature ejaculation is rarely caused by any underlying disease, structural or physical problems.
* Younger men - which is not surprising, as theres a distinct tendency for it to improve with age.
* Men generally get better control as they grow older.
* However, a 2004 survey in Europe showed that middle-aged men still have this problem.
* Finally, theres no question that anxiety (or nerves) plays a part in many cases of PE. If youre nervous, you're likely to come too quickly. Thats why many males have discovered for themselves that a small amount of alcohol eases their nerves and makes them last longer in bed. But we wouldnt recommend alcohol as a treatment!
The following are NOT typically causes of premature ejaculation:
1. Men are too excited to focus on bodily sensation.
2. Some mens first experience with intercourse was in a tense situation where hurrying was beneficial, like in a car, and then learned a bad habit.
3. Being so concerned about performance they didnt pay attention to their own sensations and not focusing on their anxiety of how to last longer in bed.
4. Guilt about enjoying sex or pleasure of any kind.
5. Worrying about maintaining erections.
6. Unresolved relationship issues.
7. General life stress.
Cure Premature Ejaculation and Learn How to Last Longer in Bed
Category 1. The Minute Man.
For the man that can have a successful foreplay session with his partner, and achieve penetration, but finishes in less than 5 minutes, we can relate that you may not need medical assistance, only some careful training.
* The Chinese Method. After penetration, and a few moments of trusting, withdraw and go back to foreplay, or make an excuse and let the cat out or the dog in. This starting and stopping will let you achieve easily up to an hour of erection and towards the end of your session, you partner may be aroused enough to orgasm as well and enable you to last long in bed.
* Wear a Thick Condom. This will act to desensitize your penis, especially the "trigger" area under the crown or head. It may be less pleasurable to you, but your partner will not notice the difference, only will notice you are lasting longer.
* Use an Analgesic Gel. This may also make your (and your partner) feel less sensations (unless you wear a condom...and some condoms already come with such gel included). It will buy you some time, and as you get used to more time, you will gain confidence and begin to less nervous and last longer naturally.
* Have a drink of red wine shortly before your sexual encounter. Do not become drunk, only a glass drunk with your partner slowly and sensually will act to relax you and relaxed, you will last longer.
* The Perfumed Garden, an Arab classical textbook on sex mentions the smoking of hashish as a solution for PE. We do not recommend this, but state it only for informational purposes. Also, in todays literature and films, it is more than implied that smoking marijuana enhances and lengthens the sexual experience.
Category 2. The Finished in Seconds Man
This form of premature ejaculation is very frustrating for both the sufferer and the partner.
We recommend seeing a doctor if this is your condition, or a licensed sexual therapist (trained in the Masters and Johnson techniques), but before you do, you might try some of the advice for the guys in Category 1.
If it works for you, you have gained a great deal if it doesnt go and see your doctor. You will be advised, as also the Category 3 man (see below) some new treatments that really work.
Category 3. Finished Before He Starts Man
In this form of premature ejaculation, no penetration is possible. You have a problem, and it may be a whole host of things, so see your doctor at once.
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